Shaking my head at this onePosted: September 14, 2012
I’m all for finding ways to end gun violence and to support women fleeing from domestic violence. I spent several years serving on a women’s shelter board – the stories women fleeing violence are tragic and their strength is admirable. But this? I don’t get it.
A Toronto woman, Nicole Osbourne James, has started her own campaign to end gun violence. Admirable. Her idea? To have women withhold sex from their gun-toting partners. James has this to say:
“The idea is that we, as women, should take responsibility and ownership of the men in our lives.
Really? I had no idea I should take “ownership” of my partner.
James goes on:
“Listen, we do use sex to get what we want,” James said. “My man comes home late and I’m mad — there won’t be any action in that moment. We do it for minimal reasons, why should it be different if he’s out gangbanging?”
Sounds like a rather manipulative relationship.
A few points:
- Men and women don’t “own” each other.
- The premise that women’s greatest power is their vaginas is ridiculous.
- Women aren’t responsible for men’s actions. And they shouldn’t be put in a position, like this, that compromises their own safety.
- Sex shouldn’t be a commodity in a loving relationship, nor used as a negotiating tool.